Why leaders fail

Herewith you can find a nice article written by Mark Sanbornhttp://www.leadershipnow.com/sanborn.html

Brian Tracy

Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, “What’s in it for me?”

Brian Tracy

Communication is a skill that you can learn. It’s like riding a bicycle or typing. If you’re willing to work at it, you can rapidly improve the quality of every part of your life.

Stephen Covey

Begin with the end in mind

Horace

The harder you fall, the higher you bounce

Anthony Robbins

The past does not equal the future

Napoleon Hill

Opportunity often comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat

The Four P’s of Persuasion – By Brian Tracy

September 30, 2007

Perception Is Everything…
There are four “Ps” that will enhance your ability to persuade others in both your work and personal life. They are power, positioning, performance, and politeness. And they are all based on perception.

Develop Personal Power…
The first “P” is power. The more power and influence that a person perceives that you have, whether real or not, the more likely it is that that person will be persuaded by you to do the things you want them to do.

For example, if you appear to be a senior executive, or a wealthy person, people will be much more likely to help you and serve you than they would be if you were perceived to be a lower level employee.

Shape Their Thinking About You…
The second “P” is positioning. This refers to the way that other people think about you and talk about you when you are not there. Your positioning in the mind and heart of other people largely determines how open they are to being influenced by you.

In everything you do involving other people, you are shaping and influencing their perceptions of you and your positioning in their minds. Think about how you could change the things you say and do so that people think about you in such a way that they are more open to your requests and to helping you achieve your goals.

Be Good At What You Do…
The third “P” is performance. This refers to your level of competence and expertise in your area. A person who is highly respected for his or her ability to get results is far more persuasive and influential than a person who only does an average job.

Commit to Excellence…
The perception that people have of your performance capabilities exerts an inordinate influence on how they think and feel about you. You should commit yourself to being the very best in your field.

Sometimes, a reputation for being excellent at what you do can be so powerful that it alone can make you an extremely persuasive individual in all of your interactions with the people around you. They will accept your advice, be open to your influence and agree with your requests.

Treat People Politely…
The fourth “P” of persuasion power is politeness. People do things for two reasons, because they want to and because they have to. When you treat people with kindness, courtesy and respect, you make them want to do things for you. They are motivated to go out of their way to help you solve your problems and accomplish your goals.

Being nice to other people satisfies one of the deepest of all subconscious needs, the need to feel important and respected. Whenever you convey this to another person in your conversation, your attitude and your treatment of that person, he or she will be wide open to being persuaded and influenced by you in almost anything you need.

Perception Is Reality…
Again, perception is everything. The perception of an individual is his or her reality. People act on the basis of their perceptions of you. If you change their perceptions, you change the way they think and feel about you, and you change the things that they will do for you.

Action Exercises:

Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action:

First, think continually about the impression you want to make on others and then make sure that everything you do or say is consistent with that perception.

Second, be nice to people. Practice the Golden Rule in your interactions with others. Always be polite and make others feel important.

The more people like you, the more open they are to being influenced by you.
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Brian Tracy is one of the world’s leading authorities on personal and business success. His fast-moving talks and seminars are loaded with powerful, proven ideas and strategies that you can apply immediately to get better results in every area. Visit the Brian Tracy web site.

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Donald Trump

If there’s a concrete wall in front of you, you have to go through that wall. You can’t give up. And you have to love what you’re doing or you’ll never be good at it”

Marshall Goldsmith

Workshop 8 Feb 08 in The Netherlands ( Financieele Dagblad): Workshop Succesgoeroe Marshall Goldsmith  Highlights: Telling the world how smart we are ( smart succesful people) -Turning that down is extremely difficult.Passing judgement – help more, judge less  (destructive comments – stabb co-workers in the back)  Too much of our lives is reduced by that  

Feedforward- no feedback about the past- you cannot change the past ! Do not ask probing questions.

“No, but or however”- pay 20 US dollars — 21 = 420 dollars lost ( I know more than you do, I am better) No I agree with you. It is incredibly difficult for smart succesful people to hear ideas we have already heard.  All what came before is insignificant

What family’s member is getting the most recognition ? The dog ! The dog doesn’t talk back ! The dog is happy to see me ! The dog is a suck up. If we are not careful, how do we treat people at work ? Like dogs !

Play favorites – 1. How much do they like me 2. how much are they like me ? 3. How do they relate to customers and co-workers ?

Win the big stuff : “is it worthed ?” ( All the rest, take a deep breath)

Do not try to change everything- Let ’s get something

http://www.marshallgoldsmithlibrary.com/blog/index.php