“The man who chases two rabbits catches neither.”
| Nothing will ever be attempted, if all possible objections must first be overcome.” |
by Susan Cramm, Executive Coach
http://www.sun.com/emrkt/boardroom/newsletter/0905leadingvision.html
By Susan Cramm, Executive Coach.
Extremely usefull article about mapping out priorities when starting a new job.
http://advice.cio.com/susan_cramm/transition_discipline?page=0%2C0
“Never postpone happiness or waste the present trying to live in the past.”
“Use your past as a springboard instead of an anchor. Deal with the issues that are holding you back.”
“Focus and determination beat brains and intellect every time. If you focus on the right things, and work at them often, you will achieve exceptional results.”
Adapted from the Art of question - Marilee G. Adams, PhD
Questions
Judger
What is wrong ? What works ?
Who’s to blame ? What am I responsible for ?
How can I be in control ? What are my choices ?
Why is the other person so What is the other person feeling, needing and wanting ?
frustrating ?
Mindsets
Judger Learner
Judgmental of self/others Accepting of self/others
Reactive and automatic Responsive and thoughtful
Inflexible and rigid Flexible and adaptive
Either/or thinking Both/ and thinking
Self-righteous Inquisitive
Afraid of difference Values difference
Personal perspective only Considers perspective of others
Defends assumptions Questions assumptions
Possibilities seen as limited Possibilities seen as Unlimited
Protective Curious
We all have both mindsets, and we have the power to choose where we operate from in any moment
Relationships
Judger Learner
Win-lose relationships Win-win relationships
Separate Connected
Fears differences Values differences
Debates Dialogues
Criticizes Critiques
Listens for Listens for :
-right/ wrong – facts
-agree/disagree – understanding
-differences – commonalities
Feedback perceived as rejection Feedback perceived as worthwhile
Seeks to attack or defend Seeks to resolve and to create
We all react from both mindsets, and we have the power to choose how we relate in any moment.
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” Your worst enemy cannot harm you
as much as your own thoughts, unguarded. But once mastered, no one can help you as much…” • • • “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.” —both quotes by Buddha, as cited in the book Buddha, by Jon Ortner. |
| WHAT WE FOCUS ON EXPANDS !
What we are most afraid of ,we will create The best way I will handle objections, I will not expect them |
